Fearless Fantasies

If I was incapable of feeling fear….

That would mean that the element of surprise, the uncertainty level in everything would no longer exist.

Fear can affect whether you move forward because that fear does not allow you to do so. To be too scared to go on that date, talk to your crush, fall in love, quit that job or simply look for another. If you let fear determine whether or not you’ll take that next step chances are you’ll miss out on so much. If you’re too scared to get into a relationship, or fall in love while already in a relationship you could miss out on happiness the relationship can bring you.

If you’re afraid of looking for a job that’s more centered around your career goals because you’re comfortable in your current situation; you need to move forward and away from where you no longer want to be, and if you don’t get out of that comfort zone you won’t know what it’s like to take that job.

I’ve worked for a year as way more than a personal assistant, way more than I knew I was getting myself into. I learned a lot more than I thought I would in the past year. I realized that it wasn’t what I wanted to do anymore and I realized it was time to leave. You have to know when it’s time to leave and if you stay and get sidetracked from your own goals then what’s the point? One day, when it’s already too late you’ll realize you devoted so many years of your life to fulfilling someone else’s hopes and dreams and in the process you’ve forgotten about your own.

I realized that I gave so much of myself to my boss, while forgetting about my own needs. I, who come first before anyone else. I was too mentally exhausted to work on a paper for my grad class because the day I had at work was so mentally draining. I was tired of getting out so late that my workout time got messed up and my “after work schedule” was ruined. At first it would annoy me to miss my workout. After a while it became the norm because I allowed it to happen.

After time and time again of frustration, tears, anger, complaining, and so many other feelings, I finally decided it was time to move on. I’ve recently landed an internship which I cannot wait to begin! Fear could’ve held me back from taking this position because of the factors involved but I didn’t let that happen. It’s risk over reward, If you don’t take the risk how will you know what the reward is?




You Never Know

I’ve now been seeing Mr. Unexpected for a while now, and though it hasn’t been long in the scheme of things, it is the most time I’ve spent with someone (who could be a someone special) in almost three years.

And even though I’ve written hundreds of blogs about dating, and even though I’ve given advice to basically everyone I know, and even though I’ve been down this uncertain road before…

…it still feels like the first time I’ve ever had, well, a crush on someone.

They say a lot of things get easier as you age and hopefully, through experiences, you earn wisdom. They also say that the point of going on dates and meeting new people is to figure out what you want, what you’re willing to accept and what type of relationship you desire. And I’ll agree with all of those things –…

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You Need To Let Yourself Fall

Thought Catalog

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So you’ve had your heart broken like it couldn’t ever be pieced together again. You’ve been rejected, mistreated and hurt. You’ve cried your heart out and abused your liver and your legs by consuming too many alcoholic drinks every night and countless trips to one bar after another in fruitless attempts to dance your pain away, or more. You feel like nobody could ever understand your heartache and you know your friends think you’re being stupid because you’ve ignored any advice that could have otherwise kept you from breaking in the first place. You have sworn off love in hopes of keeping whatever sanity you have left.

It’s okay.

Wise lyrics from The Script once said: “Cause when a heart breaks, no it don’t break even.”

You might have loved more in the relationship. You might have given more, and in the end, gotten…

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You’re almost certain it’s the perfect thing; truth is you don’t know it at all. There’s no need to rush, time isn’t to be rushed. Why the rush? Just let the wave get to the tide at it’s own pace without extreme force.

It’s hard to live in the present, when we are living in such a future based Society. Society tells us, go to School, get an education, prepare for your future, The American Dream, etc. All this does is lead us to not enjoy the present moment we are living in.

Recently, I’ve met an amazing woman that shall remain unnamed for a little while. She has really reminded me and taught me how to be present. The future will come anyway, the past already happened, and the present, the present we can never get back. Setting goals for the future is great, but if you aren’t enjoying the present moment, everything that leads you to completing those goals you’ve set, then what does any of it matter?

One can have goals of being able to buy that Mercedes one day, a big house, kids, etc. At the age of what 40? Okay, so now you’re 40 years old and you’ve practically lived half of your life. Let’s say 20 years of planning for the other half of your life, of not being present. Because you planed for that house with the picket fence in that nice neighborhood, and three Educational Degrees.

What good was any of that hard work? Because of material things and physical things that you can see? What about happiness? After about 20 years of really hard work after High School, are you even happy? Material things are nice we can all get them. Happiness within yourself is something money cannot buy. What good are all these things if you’re miserable? Truth is they aren’t any good at all unless you’re happy.

Let’s just talk…

Face to face communication, something today’s generation is incapable of doing with astute attention. Technology has taken over human interaction. Younger generations say we’re so smart today being able to use all of this technology, which we have grown up with. I remember logging into AOL in order to surf the net and having a buddy list. I’m not even sure what I used to do online before Myspace. For me it all started with Myspace I know everyone had all these other sites already. The Sidekick came out, it was the coolest phone ever, if you were a teen, you had to get it. Yes, I had one a Sidekick ID. That was my first phone where I was able to have Facebook and AOL Instant Messenger. Since then I’ve had who knows how many smart phones, I’d say around 4 to be safe. I recently purchased the Samsung Galaxy S4 and this thing is amazing beyond belief. Anyway, back to square one, face to face communication. Yes it’s great having a mobile device that can almost do everything my MacBook Air can. Being able to be connected with everyone wherever you are.

But then we just can’t put them down; we can’t stop communicating with others virtually. Technology has become instantaneous, we are used to grasping information so quickly. No one cares about what goes on in the world, let alone will most of this generation pick up a newspaper. This generation isn’t interested in whose running for president, what’s going on in Europe, Snowden’s trial, the young man that tried to bomb the New York Federal Reserve Bank, Investments, cotton, corn, Radiation problems that persist in Japan, or the ingredients in their food, drinks, gum etc.

Instead today’s generation is just on Facebook, watching Television, or surfing the World Wide Web. Newsflash, Facebook is NOT the news. People’s day, thought’s of the day, Meme, what they bought today, who they’re hanging out with, what they’re eating, or what color Jess painted her nails today. That’s not news that’s chit chat, stalkerish, and is frying your brains. I can’t deal with incompetence. I hope America won’t have to suffer worse levels of illiteracy through our children and the future to come. Kids don’t want to pick up a book and read, it’s too time consuming for them. They rather it be read to them by the device itself or someone who can read. Is this what we are becoming? Are we really the dumbed down society they’ve always wanted us to be? Yes, we are. No one cares what goes on around the World, chances are todays youth will pick up their phone, or gaming system of choice before they pick up a book, much less the News of the day.

No one can sit and have a conversation without picking up their phones, yet I too am guilty. But there are times when it really shouldn’t occur. If there are more than 3 people present there should be some kind of conversation happening, exchange of thoughts, and ideas. I enjoy speaking with others, gaining knowledge, asking questions about things that I have interest in, and do not know much about. PLEASE WAKE UP AMERICA!



Loving yourself

Do you love the body you are living in?
Are you happy with where you are in life?
Do you have goals?
Have you met, or paved the way to complete those goals?
Do you feed your body the right foods?
Do you exercise?
Is your health well?
Do you do drugs excessively, in unnecessary ways?
Are you happy?
Do you need a partner to help you fulfill your happiness?


Before you love anyone else, you’ve gotta love your self.
You need to be happy with yourself to the fullest extent possible
That happiness needs to be found from within.
No one else can teach you how to love yourself, but you.
If you don’t love yourself, how can anyone else love you?
Why should they?